Mistake number one is misunderstanding the process of change and transformation. Despite a person's desire, enthusiasm and commitment, the journey is NEVER a straight shoot in the new direction. Two steps back will often follow taking one step forward toward change. During this backslide is often when people give up on themselves and their process. It is during this backslide where our Ego will seduce us into thinking it is impossible or too difficult to move forward. We judge our process and all our dreams and desires are subsequently abandoned.
This is a classic example of disconnection. The heart wants something the mind thinks is out of reach. In this case, if we never learn the language of feelings, which teaches us to validate, and to feel and release, instead of thinking our feelings, the mind will always win out.
Judgment always leads to stagnation and stagnation often leads to dis-ease (in the body or the mind). If instead, if we choose to look at the back slides as a lesson to be learned from, then we gain from it and it becomes part of the journey.
The next common mistake I see is the very common idea that it takes willpower and deprivation in order to achieve desired results. The truth is willpower is a very limiting power. Approaching the process from willpower and deprivation does not leave any energetic space for exploration. As a result of no exploration there is no information and therefore nothing is gained but frustration and defeat.
The energy of willpower is based in fear. This type of power is exhaustive and non-informative which, eventually wears us out!
Instead of deprivation and willpower, focus on "adding in the good stuff". This will ignite the creative process, which is filled with ever-lasting positive energy!
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